May 03, 2016

Ask Alanis Morissette: my husband is too scared to leave his job – should I push him?

My husband and I have been married for eight years. I love him, we're happy. The biggest gripe in our lives is his job, which he's kept for 13 years. I feel he's institutionalised. I'm the risk-taker, he has to analyse everything. He has no trust in his superiors and is close to walking out all the time, but won't leave out of fear. This is despite getting job offers, which he ends up turning down. How can I help him take a leap of faith?


Apr 26, 2016

Ask Alanis: why does my nephew talk about an imaginary sister?

My nephew is seven years old. He's very intelligent and has a lot of friends. Lately, he's been talking about an imaginary sister for hours. He doesn't interact with her; he just imagines situations or adventures in his head. My question is, should we worry? Also, why a sister and not a friend? Is this his way of telling us he wants a sibling? Should we encourage or discourage this? My brother (his dad) says he's too old for all this.


Apr 18, 2016

Ask Alanis Morissette: how can I stop drinking so much?

I started drinking at university, and 25 years later, I still drink daily and often too much. Most would consider me successful: I have a PhD, a great job, a nice house, a solid marriage, and good health. So why drink? The short answer is, I enjoy it. But I frequently feel tired (or have a hangover) the next day. I still go to work, exercise, and do everything I normally do – including drink at the end of the day. How do I stop?


Apr 08, 2016

Ask Alanis Morissette: I have no friends – what’s wrong with me?

Iam 35 and have hardly any friends. My family travelled a lot, meaning I lost most of my friends from childhood, and now I have only a handful of close friends, most of whom live in other countries. I am happily married with a young child and my husband has lots of friends, but I feel alone. I see lots of my acquaintances who regularly go out with friends, or other mums, and I think, "Why haven't they invited me?" What's wrong with me?


Apr 05, 2016

Ask Alanis Morissette: I wish my girlfriend didn’t smoke pot

My girlfriend and I have been dating for a couple of months now. Before this we were really good friends. I have always known that she smokes pot. I don't do drugs because I am bipolar, and I just can't accept the fact she still smokes. I love her so much, I just need to know how to accept this part of her.


Mar 26, 2016

Ask Alanis Morissette: I am dating a younger man, but my friends disapprove. Help!

I'm 31 and I've found myself very attracted to a 23-year-old man. Everything is going well – we have amazing chemistry – but my friends disapprove, and keep reminding me that my clock is ticking and I shouldn't waste my time on a relationship they say will probably go nowhere. I really think I'm falling for him. Help!


Mar 20, 2016

Ask Alanis Morissette: my accidental email has created a family rift

I have created a family rift by accidentally forwarding an email to my sister-in-law that was meant for my daughter. The email was critical of my niece, who is in her 20s and very spoilt. My sister-in-law was outraged, and although I sent her a grovelling apology I'm wondering if she'll speak to me again. What can I do? She's the sister of my ex-husband and after the divorce I remained very friendly with her up until now. Can you help?


Mar 16, 2016

Ask Alanis: my best friends now share my secrets with their spouses

I've got to that age when my best friends have become wives, fiancees and serious girlfriends, and suddenly my secrets are not so safe. My innermost thoughts and feelings are being shared with their partners, and it leaves me feeling vulnerable. I've been told that as someone who has never been in a serious relationship, it's something I can't understand. And something I can't change. So do I just start keeping things to myself?


Mar 09, 2016

House and Garden ' STRUCK BY LIGHTING'

Art Director: Petra Manley- Leach Styling: Emily Blunden

Mar 08, 2016

Ask Alanis Morissette: should I protect my son from my husband?

I am 40, my husband is 20 years older, and we have a four-year-old son. Our parenting methods are very different: my husband reprehends our son and puts him down, and I have to protect him. I want my son to love his dad instead of fearing him or feeling resentful, and to grow up confident and emotionally strong. What can I do?