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willpower special





picture editor: Caroline Hunter

Jul 02, 2016

Guardian Weekend

Jun 09, 2016

Ask Alanis Morissette: I worry about my grandchildren’s diet

We raised our daughters on healthy food and made sure they had a nourishing meal each night. It's with a feeling of despair that I see them take the easy way out with their own children's diet: fish fingers more nights than not, and lots of processed foods. I worry my grandchildren will develop health issues. I have a good relationship with my daughters and don't want to spoil it. What can I do?


May 20, 2016

Ask Alanis Morissette: why is my girlfriend so close to her ex?

Two years ago, I started dating a woman I met online – we had a spark immediately. We were both recently separated; she has two amazing girls but I've always felt uncomfortable with her ongoing relationship with her ex. I understand that a good relationship between parents is infinitely preferable to two parties at war, but they're just too caught up in each other's lives. In the two years since we got together, they've been on holiday (as a foursome) several times. Whenever I mention my discomfort, she says I'm selfish and jealous. Am I being unreasonable?


May 08, 2016

Ask Alanis Morissette: since I’ve been ill, I’ve lost contact with many friends

A few years ago, I got very ill and I am still suffering the after-effects. I can't work and now struggle in social situations. I am finding myself incredibly lonely, isolated and depressed. I used to be outgoing and confident, but I have been losing contact with my old friends. I had thought it was because I often turn down invitations due to being unwell, but this week I received a message from one of my oldest friends to tell me that I bring her down and that I need to cheer up. I am heartbroken. I have so much love and friendship to offer, just not in the same way I was able to before. What should I do?


May 03, 2016

Ask Alanis Morissette: my husband is too scared to leave his job – should I push him?

My husband and I have been married for eight years. I love him, we're happy. The biggest gripe in our lives is his job, which he's kept for 13 years. I feel he's institutionalised. I'm the risk-taker, he has to analyse everything. He has no trust in his superiors and is close to walking out all the time, but won't leave out of fear. This is despite getting job offers, which he ends up turning down. How can I help him take a leap of faith?


Apr 26, 2016

Ask Alanis: why does my nephew talk about an imaginary sister?

My nephew is seven years old. He's very intelligent and has a lot of friends. Lately, he's been talking about an imaginary sister for hours. He doesn't interact with her; he just imagines situations or adventures in his head. My question is, should we worry? Also, why a sister and not a friend? Is this his way of telling us he wants a sibling? Should we encourage or discourage this? My brother (his dad) says he's too old for all this.


Apr 18, 2016

Ask Alanis Morissette: how can I stop drinking so much?

I started drinking at university, and 25 years later, I still drink daily and often too much. Most would consider me successful: I have a PhD, a great job, a nice house, a solid marriage, and good health. So why drink? The short answer is, I enjoy it. But I frequently feel tired (or have a hangover) the next day. I still go to work, exercise, and do everything I normally do – including drink at the end of the day. How do I stop?


Apr 08, 2016

Ask Alanis Morissette: I have no friends – what’s wrong with me?

Iam 35 and have hardly any friends. My family travelled a lot, meaning I lost most of my friends from childhood, and now I have only a handful of close friends, most of whom live in other countries. I am happily married with a young child and my husband has lots of friends, but I feel alone. I see lots of my acquaintances who regularly go out with friends, or other mums, and I think, "Why haven't they invited me?" What's wrong with me?


Apr 05, 2016

Ask Alanis Morissette: I wish my girlfriend didn’t smoke pot

My girlfriend and I have been dating for a couple of months now. Before this we were really good friends. I have always known that she smokes pot. I don't do drugs because I am bipolar, and I just can't accept the fact she still smokes. I love her so much, I just need to know how to accept this part of her.