Jun 09, 2016

Ask Alanis Morissette: I worry about my grandchildren’s diet

We raised our daughters on healthy food and made sure they had a nourishing meal each night. It's with a feeling of despair that I see them take the easy way out with their own children's diet: fish fingers more nights than not, and lots of processed foods. I worry my grandchildren will develop health issues. I have a good relationship with my daughters and don't want to spoil it. What can I do?


May 20, 2016

Ask Alanis Morissette: why is my girlfriend so close to her ex?

Two years ago, I started dating a woman I met online – we had a spark immediately. We were both recently separated; she has two amazing girls but I've always felt uncomfortable with her ongoing relationship with her ex. I understand that a good relationship between parents is infinitely preferable to two parties at war, but they're just too caught up in each other's lives. In the two years since we got together, they've been on holiday (as a foursome) several times. Whenever I mention my discomfort, she says I'm selfish and jealous. Am I being unreasonable?


May 08, 2016

Ask Alanis Morissette: since I’ve been ill, I’ve lost contact with many friends

A few years ago, I got very ill and I am still suffering the after-effects. I can't work and now struggle in social situations. I am finding myself incredibly lonely, isolated and depressed. I used to be outgoing and confident, but I have been losing contact with my old friends. I had thought it was because I often turn down invitations due to being unwell, but this week I received a message from one of my oldest friends to tell me that I bring her down and that I need to cheer up. I am heartbroken. I have so much love and friendship to offer, just not in the same way I was able to before. What should I do?


May 03, 2016

Ask Alanis Morissette: my husband is too scared to leave his job – should I push him?

My husband and I have been married for eight years. I love him, we're happy. The biggest gripe in our lives is his job, which he's kept for 13 years. I feel he's institutionalised. I'm the risk-taker, he has to analyse everything. He has no trust in his superiors and is close to walking out all the time, but won't leave out of fear. This is despite getting job offers, which he ends up turning down. How can I help him take a leap of faith?


Apr 18, 2016

Ask Alanis Morissette: how can I stop drinking so much?

I started drinking at university, and 25 years later, I still drink daily and often too much. Most would consider me successful: I have a PhD, a great job, a nice house, a solid marriage, and good health. So why drink? The short answer is, I enjoy it. But I frequently feel tired (or have a hangover) the next day. I still go to work, exercise, and do everything I normally do – including drink at the end of the day. How do I stop?


Mar 26, 2016

Ask Alanis Morissette: I am dating a younger man, but my friends disapprove. Help!

I'm 31 and I've found myself very attracted to a 23-year-old man. Everything is going well – we have amazing chemistry – but my friends disapprove, and keep reminding me that my clock is ticking and I shouldn't waste my time on a relationship they say will probably go nowhere. I really think I'm falling for him. Help!


Mar 08, 2016

Ask Alanis Morissette: should I protect my son from my husband?

I am 40, my husband is 20 years older, and we have a four-year-old son. Our parenting methods are very different: my husband reprehends our son and puts him down, and I have to protect him. I want my son to love his dad instead of fearing him or feeling resentful, and to grow up confident and emotionally strong. What can I do?


Feb 29, 2016

Ask Alanis Morissette: my friend has become my boss. Will it work?

One of my dearest friends is now my boss, and it's really hard. I feel I have to keep to myself things I used to tell him because I don't want to look vulnerable in front of him any more. And jealousy comes in, too. Why him and not me? I love my job, but I don't see how I can be a friend and an employee.


Feb 07, 2016

Ask Alanis: should I follow my boyfriend to the big city?

I recently graduated and have been with my boyfriend for three years. He's naturally intelligent and popular; I'm quiet and hardworking. Now he wants to move to a new, big city, where we will find jobs (hopefully) that will pay enough to cover our bills. I was offered a job in our local town that I'm not too excited about, but I at least know I will have enough to make ends meet. Though the idea of moving and having a new life sounds like a dream, at the end of the day that's all it is. Should I follow my heart and move to the big city with him? Or do I stay where I know I have a job waiting for me, yet possibly ruin my relationship?


Feb 01, 2016

Ask Alanis: I’m obsessed with my teacher. What can I do?

I am a 14-year-old girl, and I want to be a dancer when I'm older. I feel as if I have an attachment to my dance teacher at school: we have a really good bond and I talk to her often about personal issues.

When I notice other people talking closely with her, emotions are triggered that affect me badly. (I suffered with depression last year; this mood isn't constant in the same way, but feels similar in the short term.) It sounds overdramatic, but it's something I can't control. I know she's just my teacher and that there's no good reason I should feel like this when she appears close with other students, but it seems to be affecting me more and more, and I'm unsure what to do.